Many of the best men hold sleepy camps, and the benefits of the camp experience continue throughout their lives, and Lisa Jane Hart and Kenneth Neil Steuer, one of them, was a later-in-life romance.
The two met in August 1973 at Camp Lowy’s Farm in Windsor, NY, a small camp that drew mostly children from New York and New Jersey, whose parents believed the place had no experience of color wars. Ms. Hart was 13 and Mr. Steuer was 15. She had a secret device in it. She had a machine in another bunkhouse.
However, in his memoirs, he made a memory of support rather than passion. “The camps were good,” he wrote. “Met Kenny Steuer. He is a good kid. The boy writes well.”
The two camps corresponded for a while, he from New York’s Upper West Side, and she from Tenafly, NJ Inevitably they fell into contact.
Nearly 40 years later, courtesy of a Facebook page set up by Farm Camp Lowy’s Alumni, the two reunited when Mr. Steuer, in 2011, posted a loving memory of the camp: The night he had a coed dormitory and prepared his place. sleeping bag next to Ms. Hart’s. He also warned at the station that he still had the engine in it.
Ms. Hart, who never married, is now 62 and a leadership, career and transition coach in New York. He saw a post around New Year’s Eve and sent Mr. Steuer a message that simply said, “Hello.”
It was enough. Mr. Steuer, now 64 and a New York investment consultant, responded.
But life interferes with both. He had health issues and the end of the marriage. She was dealing with a death in the family. They started talking on the phone in February 2012, but didn’t meet until May, when they went to Zabar’s and then had a blanket picnic in Central Park.
“I didn’t think about it that day, but when I left, I was like, we have a really good connection,” Ms. said Hart, who graduated from Boston University and received a law degree from the University of California; Hastings College
A few weeks later, Ms. Hart’s younger sister, who lives in San Rafael, Calif. he lived when he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and Ms. Hart spent the last year flying between the coasts, balancing a new relationship and imminent death. His sister Alison Hart Schlosser died in May 2013.
Mr. Steuer’s life was also in turmoil. She moved out of her family home in Plainview, NY, in September 2012, after two years of finally finalizing her divorce.
The two found comfort in each other, but felt restricted.
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“Lisa was always very, very bright,” Mr. Steuer said. “She was not the person who was given in marriage. Not her. She was not a wrecker at home.”
But it is not only he who governs who governs it. “I remember thinking, I think I’m in love with this guy,” Ms. Hart said.
They persisted and eventually their relationship blossomed.
In 2017, a few years after her sister died, Ms Hart also lost her mother. But not before Mr. Steuer introduced her, saying to her: “This is what I am marrying.
One night, in the year 2020, avoiding a formal fight, they agreed that it would probably be okay to do so.
“The reason for the relationship is this friendship,” Ms. Hart said, pointing out why the bill is unnecessary. “We really like each other.”
Nov. 12 at Smith Farm Gardens, an event space in East Haddam, Conn., before 33 guests got married. Adam Feder, a friend of the couple, who is a Universal Life minister, officiated.
A friend asked why they had been together for so long, the two felt that marriage was necessary. Ms. Hart told her husband to reply, “We’re just kind of old-fashioned this way. We want to witness and become a family with each other.
The first time the bride also imparts some wisdom. “I’ve never been getting arguments about marriage,” he said, “I’ve really understood what it takes to make a relationship. You have to be intentional about it. It’s not a very professional thing. You have to decide who you want to work with, and I felt like Ken and I was able to do it hard at the same time.
The groom has a more philosophical view.
“The river of life brought me again,” he said. “And this is the miracle of the universe.”